How my HIV position encouraged my manner company and saved my life

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By Daniel Grier

“Why fit in when you were being born to stand out?”  — Dr. Seuss

Developing up a Black, homosexual gentleman from the South born into a tremendous spiritual spouse and children, my sexuality was always up for discussion—even nevertheless, I didn’t know for confident that I was homosexual until eventually a lot afterwards. Nonetheless, people spread rumors about me my overall childhood and bullied me in university. Absolutely everyone was usually hoping to figure me out. I felt incredibly misunderstood, out of put, like I didn’t belong to any selected team or tribe. I felt like I was generally walking all over holding my breath.

All through those people many years I was frightened of gay people today, also. I did not realize them, and I did not assume I match in with them both. No matter what I would do to mix in or conform to societal norms I would continue to stand out for just getting myself.

Then I discovered the flexibility of trend. It was seriously the only spot that produced sense, the only put where I could just be me.  It’s what came pure to me. It was my consolation and my resourceful outlet. As a youngster I would use any fabrics I could obtain to make outfits that I would consider best stars sporting on the pink carpet. And I’d use my allowance to purchase fashion magazines. My magic formula weapon has constantly been my model and the way I gown. I have the eye, as they would say.

Style is my superpower. And in 2013, vogue saved my lifestyle. In the summer time of that same calendar year, as I was finishing up my junior calendar year of college or university, I went in for a schedule checkup and identified out I was HIV optimistic.

I put in the summer months on the sofa feeling depressed, hopeless, and even suicidal. But I determined not to conclusion my life physically but that I experienced to finish the preceding daily life as I realized it to go forward. I dropped out of higher education, quit my task, and established out on a entirely new route. In the fall of 2013, I established my clothes model, Splashed by DKG.

Splashed by DKG gave me objective once more with my very first love— style. Using my art to make my assurance, I established out to depart my mark on the planet. I started including my signature “Splash” to give new life to clothes from classic outlets and good friends. I commenced to create bold art that produced men and women satisfied and really feel like superheroes prepared to just take on the planet. For when, I was in a position to insert benefit that was appreciated on my conditions.  I want individuals to know that just like I acquire an outdated garment and give it a new everyday living, they can also start off over in existence, paint a new photograph, and make a “Splash.” Splashed by DKG not only will make a “Splash” with our styles but we also get the job done to raise awareness of difficulties like domestic violence, HIV, social injustice, LGBTQ rights, and far more.

As my brand rose to attractiveness, I set out to make a different Splash, this time to highlight the diverse but typically forgotten expertise in my hometown of Birmingham, Alabama. In 2017, my husband or wife and I co-established Magic Metropolis Fashion 7 days, an inclusive system for creatives to showcase and sharpen their abilities on the massive stage. I preferred persons to get a nearer seem at why I do what I do, how I overcame my struggles, and how I use my voice and system to amplify others’ voices. To day, MCFW has lifted funds for HIV recognition, partnered with more than 50 Birmingham-dependent organizations, administered hundreds of HIV checks, hosted courses to improved educate men and women about HIV, highlighted a number of artists of colour, supplied funding to rising designers, and proceeds to raise the bar for the inventive neighborhood in the city.

The Splashed by DKG model has been showcased in about 50 style displays, 4 style months, and a number of weblogs and journals. And my childhood aspiration of dressing superstars is coming correct, much too. Ty Hunter, Tamar Braxton, and Mali Audio have all worn my layouts. And most a short while ago you can discover Splashed by DKG on the address of Syleena Johnson’s “Woman” album.

I hope my tale evokes people today to continue to keep likely no make a difference what and to usually bear in mind you cannot screw up your destiny. Get started around and make a Splash.

Born and elevated in Birmingham, Alabama, Daniel Grier is the founder of Splashed by DKG, a bold, luxury streetwear brand name acknowledged for its statement prints and custom patterns. Daniel also serves as co-founder and artistic director of Magic Metropolis Style Week and is the father of an astounding twelve-calendar year-old son named Aedan.